Every year we each make a promise to ourselves, our “New Year’s Resolution.” Every year we promise ourselves to make a change in our lives all in an effort to better ourselves. But how many of us actually follow through with these plans? I’m guilty of it too. We say we’re going to make some DRASTIC changes in our life but we only follow those plans for a few weeks.
Over the summer I worked at a gym and my boss at the time was one of the biggest blessings I could have ever received without even knowing it. He shared with me wisdom about self-growth; mentally, spiritually, and physically. At the time, when he gave me advice, I listened but didn’t put anything into action. It wasn’t until I got to Spain that I started writing down my goals, along with 20 daily affirmations. Not just long-term but monthly, six month, yearly, two years, five years, ten years, etc. Writing what I wanted for myself was scary because I couldn’t even comprehend what I actually wanted in my life. But I’ve learned that’s okay. Every time you write what you want out of life or a goal you have in mind, it starts to become more clear every time you write it down.
“If you’re not moving forward you’re drowning.”
Another piece of advice was to start listening to podcasts while working out or commuting to work. I cannot stress how much this one has changed my life in just a few weeks. I should clarify that when I say “podcast” I mean those that are meant for self-improvement, growth, entrepreneurship, etc. While it’s tempting to listen to music while you workout or are commuting, you could be listening to a TedxTalk or a podcast about something that will help you be the best version of yourself. Again, I remember Daniel, my boss, told me to start doing this back in September and I thought “there is no way I can give up music.” It wasn’t until mid-January I finally gave it a try and started listening to “The Next Level Podcast” by Jeff Agostinelli and other podcasts about self-development. I would listen to one podcast a day while walking to work, it made a small difference but I wasn’t really listening to what they had to say. I was still getting distracted by my thoughts and everything else around me. Now this could be because I get distracted easily but I could tell I wasn’t absorbing the information they were giving me.
I finally decided to join a gym here in Soria and that’s when I tried out the idea of listening to a podcast while warming up. It wasn’t even a new podcast, it was one I had listened to twice before, “The 5 levels of Leadership” by John Maxwell. I’m not sure what happened but I was able to stay on the cross trainer for the entire podcast because I was finally understanding what he was saying. My eyes had been open, and some of the stuff Maxwell said on the podcast, Daniel had told me just six months ago, but for some reason, I didn’t put it into action. Now whenever I work out all I listen to are podcasts about self development, I’m addicted to it. Now the challenge is start putting everything into action. Below are four of the latest improvements I have made to myself, I hope they help you too.
- Write everything down.
This one sounds silly but putting pen to paper makes you feel like you will accomplish it. It leads back to writing down your goals and daily affirmations. I started challenging myself and writing down my goals every single day in my journal. The kick is, you cannot look back on the previous day. At the end of the 30 days, look back at what you had written. I mentioned earlier that your goals change and become more clear, this is a great example of it.
- Put Into Action.
This one sounds self-explanatory but I find that most people speak everything into existence but don’t follow up with any action. I am guilty of this too. I want to lose weight and become healthier, but yet all I did for the first few months here was party with my roommates. Another example is that I want to travel more, but I tend to stay in Soria on the weekends and do nothing. After traveling throughout Europe during Christmas and New Year, I realized that I had wasted the first few months in Spain by just partying. While it was “fun,” every night was exactly the same. We went to the same places, saw the same people, heard the same music, and I spent money on alcohol when it could’ve been used for travel expenses. For 2018 I made a promise to myself that I would travel to a new city in Spain or Europe every other weekend, and if I was in Soria I would spend my time at the gym or learning about video editing and photography.
You hear this all the time, “love yourself cause nobody else will.” But what we don’t talk about are the steps to achieve this and be comfortable with yourself. It’s more than just treating yourself to a glass of wine or bubble bath. It’s taken me a long time to realize the difference between being alone and being lonely, and now that I have I realized what I want for myself and what I want out of a relationship. Reyna Biddy “I Love My Love” was one of the first poems/podcast that I had listened to about loving yourself and improving relationships with your mother, your father, etc. I have learned to love myself so much that my one year anniversary of being single and being on this journey of self-love is coming up. You bet your ass I’m celebrating, just like you would if it was a one year anniversary for a couple. It’s an important step in anyone’s life to be able to be comfortable and love yourself.
- Find Your Why
Find your ‘why’– find your purpose. Your ‘why’ is the cause being, your belief that drives you. It communicates to the world who you are and why you get out of bed every morning. It explains why anyone should give a damn. There’s a structure given that helps to find your ‘why’ statement, stating your purpose with clarity. It needs to be clear, actionable and expressed with affirmative words. Furthermore, it should be short with affirmative positive action in one simple sentence. Lastly, it should encompass everything you do, not just for a job, but the impact you want to make. It’s the reason your family loves you, and why your friends want to be around you. The structure to help find your ‘why’ goes like this; “To____so that___.” That’s it. One simple sentence with positive affirmative action. Of course, it can be changed but it’s to help draft what you want.
I’m continuing to grow every single day and am learning from my mistakes in the past. I thought I would share the few lessons I have learned with everyone because they have helped me tremendously into focusing what I want for myself.
What’s my ‘why’? To inspire others to live with fewer possessions so that they can start living with less and loving with more. Until next time. xoxo.